Change..is it a good thing or a bad thing???

Change happens to all of us during our course of life..it can be reflected as an exciting time in our life or a negative thing in our life..it just depends on the outcome of the change and it depends on what personality type you are to accept the change.

Lets talk on the personality types..I have studied the 4 different personality types over the last 7 years..being a people person...this is so easy for me to study up on..it is fascinating to me knowing how people respond to different things in their life based on their personality. For those of you who do not know what I am talking about...let me explain:

1. D=dominant type which is also known as the old version of choleric temperament.
2. I=inspriational type which is also known as sanguine.
3. S=supportive type but also known as phylagmatic
4. C=cautious, competent type is known as the old version of melancholy.
I am sure many of you have seen different versions of the personality profiles or even taken a few different tests..there is even a version described in animal terms..I think otter, dog, or something like that..I remember taking that test as well..

My favorite version has always been the "old school" method..of the choleric, sanguine, etc..types..I loved the book called "Personality Plus" by Florence Littauer. When I read this book 7 or 8 years ago it really made sense in my brain.
The other book I referenced above is from Robert A. Rohm he wrote the book called "Postive Personality Profiles" I actually had the honor to hear him speak a few years ago..I loved it!

So my point in explaining the personality traits is that change is all a matter of perspective. If you are the melancholy type of person you deal with change a lot harder than most..you are cautious, think over change a lot longer, you might not even like change..or it is difficult for you to deal with...I think of one of my best friends as having this personality..she married later in life (well it was later than the rest of us but really in society she was considered the norm in her age for this century) she was 30 almost 31....as much as she loves her husband..being married was a HUGE change for her...when you hear that first year of marriage can be the most difficult as the adjustment period..well it was for her...she was just used to her lifestyle as a single all those years...

Now, someone of my temperment: I am considered a mix...I am a sanguine and a strong choleric. You can learn to tone down different parts of your personality..LOL trust me on this..I have had to learn to tone down my dominant side of myself...people just do not like it when you tend to be a bossy type of person...it just does not flow..the positive part of my personality is that D's are the type of people who get things done...that can be a blessing or a curse in my life..as I am always the first to volunteer for just about anything out there..haha it drives my poor husband NUTS!Raising 4 boys under the age of 10, being a stay at home mom to them and volunteering for so many things and going in every direction..can be a lot..but see I thrive on this...it is my personality..Jim is very good to support me in all of my adventures..

I think back on my own life..of having 3 boys dropped into our laps in one day..plus in that same week buying a new house/moving/and we had to quickly find a mini van, as my current car at the time did not hold 4 boys in it (we already had my son, Landon who we had adopted in in 2005) now that is A LOT OF CHANGE to deal with...somehow my husband and I work well together and we took it all in stride dealing with it..I only remember feeling like I was having an out of body experience once..while in the shower, feeling like my head was spinning...:) The ages of our boys at that time in 2007 were: 5.5, 2.5, 1.5 and 6 months old..that was 3 sets of diapers to change..I told Jim I felt like a diaper changing machine..all day long..
In conculsion, I wanted to end my post on change with a quote from a current book I am reading called "Doing Life Differently, the Art of Living with Imagination" by Luci Swindoll. I love this book and can not seem to put it down..but if any of you out there know me and have been to my home..you have seem my current library of books..I LOVE to read..

Anyway Luci says "Every person is a combination of many factors woven together from the joys and sorrows of life. We're also the product of our choices. We're the result of what was or was not done for or to us by our parents, siblings, associates, and friends. The journey we're on is planned and watched over by a loving God who wants us to treasure the gift of being alive and who sets us free to participate in our own destiny. Embracing that journey-whatever it is for each of us, wherever it takes us-is imperative to capturing the spirit of adventure. When we realize our lives are to be given away, everything about our outlook changes and grows. God takes our youth and gives us in exchange his truth. We see and do things differently as a result. We think beyond our own borders. The world becomes accessible through the power of God's Spirit and love. We capture each moment, embrace the journey and go forward."

This truely sums up change to me..if you are contemplating change in your life..ask yourself..how will this add value to my life and to others? If you have a difficult time with change and need someone to talk with..that is what a life coach is for..I can help you make those changes..even if it is a career change. Sometimes we just have mental blocks we can not seem to over come in our brains and need to talk things out with someone who is not emotionally attached to us..like our family members or our best friends..they love and adore us but we really could use an outside person to talk with...for more information on my life/career coaching please see my website: www.laurapeiffer.com mention this blog and receive 15% off my services!!